Take a good look at the following faces and gestures: 😍 ❤️ 💌 💝. For your information as innocent as they look they’ve all been declared wanted for the crime of breaking many relationships and marriages as a result of suspicion of cheating. Back in the days before the social media razzmatazz took over conventional ways of communication, a suspicious spouse had to catch a cheating partner in bed with another man or woman as evidence but in the present digital age it takes an awful lot less.
Now let me introduce you to the world of “micro-cheating”.
Micro-cheating is a term used to describe behaviours considered to be a thin line between friendly interaction and infidelity. According to Martin Graff, a psychologist professor at the University of South Wales, England “all it now requires is the click of a computer button for a partner to be considered unfaithful – and with all the same consequences as a full-blown affair”. A study published by Monica Whitty, another British cyber-psychologist, found that sharing emotional and intimate information with another person online elicited higher ratings for judgments of infidelity than viewing pornography.
One factor that shouldn’t be ignored is the fact that some of these gestures are pure. I remembered when I first started getting use to using symbols and slangs in text messaging. I replied my white boss text message by placing the letter “XXX” at the end of the message, my boss called me straight back asking why I’m I blowing him a kiss, because he’s a man and not a woman it made it worse, trust me from that day you will never see me even typing the letter ‘X’ IN any text message.
As you already know I like to look after my fans and readers, I made a list of micro-cheat signs below so you can do a self appraisal and adjust before your get caught or wreck your relationship that is if you are interested in keeping it by the way.
Different types of Micro-cheats
- Publicly complimenting someone of the opposite sex online.
- Messages to another person with emojis like hearts and flowers.
- Saving someone’s contact details on their smartphone under a false name.
- Adding a former flame on Snapchat or following them on Instagram.
- Tagging a member of the opposite sex in a post as part of an inside joke.
- Checking the social media accounts of former partners
- Saving mobile phone contact details of a friend of the opposite sex under a false name.
- Messaging someone of opposite sex very often without your partner’s knowledge
To round this up it is evident that increased usage of social media has been linked to increased arguments and negative consequences in many relationships. The question is can we really blame social media for this problems or does insecurity and jealousy also have a part to play? Please leave a comment.